We deal daily with violence, bullying, physical reactions, and physical aggression. The plan is to look for alternatives to emotional outbursts. One student known for physical aggression, (let’s call him Phil), showed dramatic improvement throughout the first week.
He was rewarded and was ecstatic.
The concepts taught are skills meant to help these children grow into competent, confident, and successful individuals. The faster they understand how to alter physical aggression, the faster they can turn them into good habits, ultimately enhancing their self-control and benefit countless areas of their lives.
Early the following week, Phil was playing on the playground with other children with his mom nearby. Another child stole Phil’s toy. Pleased as can be, staff watched as Phil went to his mother for support instead of pummeling this smaller kid into the ground- which would have been Phil’s m.o.
Ahh. The smell of success.
Wait. Rewind. Phil’s mother just yelled at him for being a “snitch” and wanted to know why Phil is “letting” this other kid “punk” him like that. Ugghh… the smell of defeat. Phil’s success was just dramatically reduced because of the unwritten code of the neighborhood. This code spreads across all the lives of our children.
I refuse to accept defeat.
It is widely accepted that it takes twenty-one days to not only break a habit, but to form one. According to statistics, at four hours a day, five days a week, it should take us 126 of those days to break these unhealthy habits and another 126 days to form the alternatives. Phil showed improvement in about five days.